- A look back at 2010.
- January 2nd, 2011
2010 has been a good year for me, but it has been peppered with bad moments. Overall economically it's been okay for me as an individual, but nationwide finances have been trying.
Disasters were plentiful for 2010. The Haiti earthquake happened on January, 12th, 2010. It's hard to believe in 10 days it will have been one year since the destruction and the people of Haiti are still in a horrible state.
The BP oil spill happened in April of 2010 and we are still trying to recover....and will be for many years to come.
On a more personal note: Cabbott died on September 7th, 2010. I have my moments where I've made peace with this fact and then I have some pretty rough times. It's the little things and memories that keep popping up that make it hard.
Matt and I celebrated our one year anniversary on September 22nd, 2010.
We got our dog Bebe on October 8th, 2010.
December 22nd, 2010 President Obama signed the repeal of "Don't Ask Don't Tell."
Leslie Nelson, one of my more favorite actors & comedians, died on November 28th, 2010. He was 84-years-old.
And December 31st, 2010 is the first year I have sat at the house for New Years and watched the ball drop on television. Usually I'd be on River Street in Savannah, GA or at some sort of celebration with friends... watching fireworks and drinking some form of alcoholic beverage.
And as for my overall growth experience this year:
Well I guess this is the first year I can end and truly say that I feel like I've learned a lot more and grown a great deal more. I'm truly learning what it means to be married. I've started my "working for the bills" portion of my life and it could be better could be worse.
One thing I've thought about a lot is the fact that I now understand a few more key instances where my parents said, "You’ll understand one day Laura."
Whenever my parents were too tired to go and do something or hesitated to spend money on something frivolous I would often get frustrated. I mean I wouldn't throw temper tantrums. I was never that kind of child/teenager, but I truly and simply just "didn't understand."
Now I do. And I'm not sure how eloquently I can put this: It's a different world: the world of work. I don't have the privilege of working the preverbal nine to five yet. But it's hard to go and spend 8 to 10 hours working on your feet all day... and then come home, do dishes, clean house, feed the animals, balance the check book, pay bills, keep a tidy car, cook dinner, and in general keep your home life organized. I wouldn't say that it's all hard work and no play... certainly not. If that were the case then what would all the hard work be for? It can be very rewarding too. To look around you at the productive things you have done that day.
I'm learning that it's important to keep up the daily grind, but to also take time for myself. It's been hard saying no to friends and family members when they want to hang out and I just need a break. But I'm learning that it's important to give myself some time to breath sometimes.
We all have challenges in one way or another. And I always try to keep that in mind. I wouldn't call my schedule harder or easier than any other person's schedule. It's just different. And the fact remains: you don't know what the other person has on their plate until you've stepped in their shoes. The fact is, no matter how much I hated hearing this in college/school, (and believe me I did hate hearing it), this "real world" is vastly different. And I just have to keep in mind that some friends and family members won't understand why I bail out on certain events, but they'll get over it.
College is work, but this is a different kind of work. In college I got weekends off. This is not the case now. I hope I can gain that back one day. In school people expected that my house/room should be a bit messy. After all... isn't that the stereotype of all college students? But now it's time to grow up. And part of that is just doing the simple things mom used to tell me to do, "Put things back where you found them. Clean up after yourself."
Growing up isn't easy, but it's not all hard work either. There are plenty of freedoms I enjoy... and some simple privileges I miss.
2010 has been a good year overall. It's been a year of loss. But I hope that from some of those losses I can just grow stronger and maybe develop a little thicker skin.
For 2011, I hope to get healthier, save more money, and start getting interested in a career.
Good luck to all and I wish you nothing but the best for the upcoming year.